Bro/Sis, are you ok?
No, really, HOW ARE YOU?
Family, I’ve really been thinking about this issue of false feelings.
As a Christian, sometimes we feel as though we cannot complain, or that we cannot not be ‘okay’ (forgive the double negative, but it make sense). Sometimes when we speak to others and they ask us how we are, we come out with the ‘blessed and highly favoured’ or ‘by God’s grace, I cant complain’, when really inside we are screaming and crying for help, breaking down, losing our mind, hurting, stressed, wanting to (or on the verge of) sin, wanting to give up and/or any other feeling, and we need help.
Please, I want you to know that it is perfectly normal and perfectly RESPECTABLE to need others and to need help. We do not need to suffer in silence and in fact, God does not want us to. We were BUILT to need companionship, and that is not only in a dating/courting/marriage sense, but in friendships/sisterhood/brotherhood sense also. We are built to need others.
When your back is against a wall and it looks as if it is over (Travis Greene reference if you didn’t catch that lol!) or the situation is looking as though it is impossible, who can you turn to? Who DO you turn to?
Yes, the first stop is to pray and ask God for His help, but we also need people we can lean on and speak to honestly and candidly, so they too can give us practical godly advice, offer up prayers and intercede on our behalf and most importantly just LISTEN to us.
I am not saying that you need to tell everyone your issues, or go into social media and be telling everyone what’s up, but you DO need a friend, or someone close to you that you can really turn to. Really speak with. Someone you trust.
I don’t know if I’ve mentioned this analogy that Uncle Pastor John Gray told me one time (1. He’s my uncle in my mind, 2. I was watching a sermon), but he spoke about 8-3-1 (8 people that are in the ‘outer courts’ of your life – the other disciples. 3 people in your ‘inner courts’ you can really speak to about your issues, those you can truly lean on – your Peter, James and John and the 1 person in your Holy of Holies – you and your personal relationship with God) – from this, who are your 3? Who are your Peter James and John?
We all need someone. Jesus had Peter, James and John who He confided in, Job had three friends, who, when they found out about his issues, came to just sit with him. The animals went into the ark two by two. Many times in the Bible you see that the disciples went out in twos. When Peter is in prison, the church was PRAYING for him – night vigil in fact - and he was released by a divine visitation from an angel.
YOU CANNOT GO THROUGH LIFE BY YOURSELF.
One of the biggest lies from the devil is that you don’t need other people, that you can handle this by yourself, that you shouldn’t tell others and that you have to look perfect all the time. But you have to remember these are LIES. You shouldn’t hold everything/all your burdens by yourself. We are called as your brothers and sisters in Christ to also carry your burdens (Galatians 6:2). Your burdens are our burdens. The church was able to pray for Peter because they KNEW WHAT WAS HAPPENING. If we do not know, then how can we help, how can we pray?
Whilst I'm here, let me talk to the ‘we’ for a second.
Are you checking up on your friends? Are you asking them how they are really doing? I know we all have busy lives, but we need to CHECK UP ON PEOPLE. Not everyone will outrightly come and tell you if there is anything wrong or going on in their lives – I know I don’t a lot of the time. So we have to make the effort to speak to others and REALLY ask them if they are ok. I know in the UK (I don’t know if it is anywhere else in the world), it is polite to ask people how they are, and many times it's an automatic reflex to say 'I'm fine thanks' because most people really don’t care about the answer. BUT WE SHOULD CARE ABOUT THE ANSWER.
Honestly, this life is a battle. And the enemy wants to convince you that you can carry this burden by yourself, and you don’t need anyone else, but you do (did I ever tell you that the devils first and only language is lies-ish? ALL he can do is LIE). This is how the enemy tries to get you by yourself and isolated so that he has free reign to attack you. The enemy has come to steal, to kill and to destroy and he is like a prowling lion seeking whom to devour, he could be scoping out someone you know right now.
I remember only yesterday, I was stressed, anxious, and battling and at first I was keeping it to myself, trying to fight it alone, just God and I, but then my sister in Christ called me, and I ended up just telling her what was up, and we prayed together. I’ll never forget it (so thank you sissy – you know who you are).
Prayer changes everything: Paul and Silas were delivered through prayer and praise, and as I said before, the church was praying for Peter and he was released. Your breakthrough can also come from the prayers of others. The prayers of the righteous availeth much.
So I leave you with a question..
For You: What is tying your hands or keeping you in bondage right now?
I just want to encourage you to speak to your Peter, James and John, don't suffer alone. Please.
And for the 'We': Does your friend seem distant right now? Have you spoken to them recently? I also want to encourage you just check up on them quickly and find out what’s going, pray, give them advice and counsel and LISTEN to them.
It is SO important and SO necessary!
If you need prayers - feel free to message me. I feel led to dedicate my Wednesday prayers for intercession, and would be honoured to intercede on your behalf.
Love Peace and Joy!
Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls, for he has no one to help him up. Again, if two lie down together, they will keep warm; but how can one be warm alone? Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him. And a threefold cord is not quickly broken. – Ecclesiastes 4:9-12